▪ Is your child between 3 and 12 years old?
▪ Is the relationship between you and your child not to your liking?
▪ Does you child take their education for granted?
▪ Are unsure about whether your educational approach is right for your child?
▪ Do you feel that your child is not comfortable in their own skin? ▪ Does your child not listen to you?
▪ Do you find it difficult to enjoy the time you spend with your child?
What is the Solution?
Children are diagnosed with mental health conditions far more frequently than you might think. The question most parents have though is what does one actually do after this diagnosis? A Pedagogic Coach can help you go through the literature and discuss with you, to what extent and in what way it applies to you and your own situation.
A Pedagogic Coach can guide you:
Education Coaching is a way for pedagogic Coach to connect with parents and to get them to understand the needs and abilities of their child. This gives you you a clear view of where the problems are with your child. For optimal development and a good relationship between parent and child, it is especially important both parent and child to understand eachother. A pedagogic coach can help you find an educational approach that fits your own needs and the needs of the child. Another approach can break patterns and offer a solution to the problems you are experiencing.
Family 1: Guus would not go to bed.
Mrs. Verweij joined the pedagogic Coach asking for help in raising her son. Each night they had problems putting their 5 year old son Guus to bed. As soon as they put him to bed and left the room he would get up and run around again. During the observations we noticed several things: there was no set bedtime routine, and Mrs. Verweij never discussed what was going to happen with Guus. As a result she had no grip on the situation and she was regularly tense and stressed from the moment Guus had to go to bed. This was probably also felt by Guus. Following advice from the Parenting Coach Mrs. Verweij introduced activities that helped Guus wind down before going to bed, a fixed bedtime routine and introduced a reward system that encouraged Guus to show more desired behavior. This gave both Mrs. Verweij and Guus peace and clarity and there was less and less conflict. The reward scheme helped Mrs. Verweij reward Guus for appropriate behaviour. Some of these steps were also be applied to other aspects of Mrs. Verweij’s parenting routine.
Family 2: Tantrums – Where do they Come From?
Mr. and mrs. Laak came to the Parentig Coach to learn to deal with the tantrums that their 6-year-old Fleur was having. Fleur had been throwing tantrums a few times a day for the last few years and her parents had no idea why. Her parents had always hoped that Fleur would grow out of these tantrums as she got older but that was unfortunately not the case. Fleur regularly ruined the atmosphere for the entire family, including during trips and vacations. During tantrums Fleur would scream, stuff was destroyed or she would lash out at others. Her parents also said she would refuse to listen to them while these tantrums were happening. Penalties that her parents introduced did nothing to reduce the number of tantrums she had. Remarkably there were very few issues between Fleur and her peers at school. During observations we noticed that the tantrums usually occurred at moments of change. Tantrums happened mostly on weekends and on days when there was an unexpected visitor. Exciting times like holidays and birthdays were also a cause for extra tantrums. When Fleur was playing and had to come to the table for dinner there was often a huge battle between her and her parents.
Fleur was a restless and easily distracted. The parents were initially advised by the Parenting Coach to work with pictograms to make Fleur’s daily routine clear and predictable to her. Especially during weekends and holidays this gave Fleur a lot of overview and tranquility. If her parents inform her of the change 5 minutes before eating then there is less of an issue when Fleur has to sit down. If a tantrum occurs the parents have learned how to respond effectively.
Because the tantrums still occurred regularly, the parenting coach advised the parents to have Fleur examined. After extensive investigation Fleur was diagnosed with PDD-NOS and ADHD. With the help of the parenting coach the parents have learned about the limitations surrounding these conditions and we have created an approach to match the capabilities of Fleur. The insight into the behavior of Fleur has helped the parents to adjust their expectations and enjoy more positive moments.
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